There are so many things competing for our time and energy. So often exercise gets pushed to the bottom of the to-do list.
Hiring a personal trainer is one of the common ways people try to get themselves into exercising, myself included. Plus it sounds so bougie to be able to say “I have a personal trainer.” It’s like a status symbol. Celebs have personal trainers and they alway look great! Personal training must be the secret. But that didn’t work for me. Here’s why.
Having a personal trainer is not a bad thing. In fact, it may be the right choice for you… if the barriers that prevent you from exercising are that you don’t know where to start or what information to trust when it comes to working out, you have a physical limitation that hinders you and your form needs to be closely watched while you exercise, you’re an athlete looking to train for a sporting event and you need coaching, you’re at an elite level and need expertise, or something along those lines.
A personal trainer is not the right choice for you if your barriers to exercising are along the lines of not having time, being too busy, or just plain laziness (that last one is 100% me).
Because here’s the thing: exercise can’t be outsourced. No one can exercise for you. You have to do it yourself. No matter how much money or how little money you have. Even the VS Angels and the Khardashians and the Hemsworth brothers have to do the workouts themselves. Yes it helps to have a trainer but trainer or no trainer, they have to do the workouts themselves.
What I realized was that celebrities aren’t fit and sexy because they have personal trainers. They’re fit and sexy because they can afford to hire people and outsource the tasks that can get done by other people.
Your personal trainer can’t workout for you. But a nanny can do the school run for you. A cook can make dinner for you (or the nanny can do the cooking for you). A cleaner can clean the house and do laundry for you, a dog walker can walk the dog, landscapers can do the yard work, and if you’re really lucky, a personal assistant can arrange for all those things to happen for you.
That is the secret of celebrities and rich people. Despite having full schedules and jet setting around the world all the time, they have the time to workout because they can afford to have other people do all the other mundane tasks for them.
And that’s what they do. There are few things that we absolutely have to do ourselves (if we are fortunate to be able to afford it). The saying “if you want something done right, do it yourself” can sometimes make us get in our own way.
Take for example Beyoncé, a wealthy famous, and hella fit and sexy woman. There are very few things B has to do because no one else can do them for her. No one can sing for her or perform for her- that’s her job- so she obviously has to do those things herself. And I doubt there would be many other items to add to that list.
Now take myself for example. I’m a student. No one can do my learning/homework for me (well I mean I could have someone else do that for me but that’s called cheating and I’m not trying to get expelled).
Also, no one can exercise or sleep for me. No one can exercise for Beyoncé or sleep for her either. Same goes for any person. No one can eat for you either but you can have people cook for you, and I don’t mean eating out at restaurants or an expensive personal chef on staff. You could hire a neighbor kid or a culinary student from a community college to cook for you. Or get one of those meal boxes so at the very least cooking takes less time.
Cooking, cleaning, driving around and running errands at the store, those are the types of things that can easily inch out our exercise time and yet we could easily have someone else do for us, provided we have the money. Not everyone does.
But the point I’m trying to make is that if you have the money for a personal trainer, and yet you don’t “have the time” to work out, before you hire the trainer, hire a butler and/or a nanny. Get your groceries delivered with Shipt or Instacart. Hire a cleaner or a landscaper. That will free up the time you need to exercise.
And p.s., if you feel like you need a trainer for accountability to do the workouts, you don’t need to pay a trainer, I’m sure you already have a friend/spouse/romantic partner/neighbor/older child/somebody who could be your workout buddy.